From the moment you get the most gifted news of the world; that positive sign on a pregnancy test, your mind and emotions will start running in excitement. Unless you’re actually in the doctor’s office, it’s hard to tell what’s happening inside your belly. Right? This will certainly lead to the most common anxieties and worries during the pregnancy period.
During my first pregnancy, I was in the doctor’s office almost every week during the first trimester because I was nervous and needed some assurance that everything was progressing properly. At that point, you don’t see your belly growing, can’t feel the baby moving, and when this is your first pregnancy experience, it would become so scary! Interestingly after getting reassurance during a doctor’s appointment, again I became frightened without any true reason until the next appointment. After all the worrying and nerves, I’ve had two healthy babies and realized that there was no reason to worry. Of course, there are always times that there might be something wrong, and then you should make sure to contact your physician immediately. But most of cases, these fears are not evident enough in the long run during this pregnancy period. In this writing we’ll discuss such 15 anxieties that you may face during this period, while you should not be panicked as they don’t really exist in the later period, and you’ll be having a healthy and safe parenthood.
1. Will I have a miscarriage?
I think, this is one of most common frightening factors among the pregnant women all over the world. This can become scarier if you have heard stories about the many women who do experience a miscarriage or have already had one in the past. The alarming statistic that 1 in 4 (25% of the total case) pregnancies are miscarried is definitely a scary thought. But you have to keep in mind that, this number is high because that is typically in the first few weeks when you first conceive, and even before you would even know you’re pregnant. Once you hear a heartbeat around 6-8 weeks, your chances of miscarrying drops dramatically to only 5%. This keeps getting lower as your pregnancy progresses.
2. Am I eating enough and getting enough nutrition for my baby?
You may have heard the phrase ‘eating for two’ when you’re pregnant. However, that doesn’t necessarily mean you need to eat double, but just that you’re providing another human being with nutrients from your food intake. But in the first trimester, you may feel too nauseous (morning sickness) to keep anything down. It’s scary to think that if you only had 4 crackers all day, your baby might not be getting enough nutrients to progress. Well, the good news is that your baby will take all the nutrients it needs to survive before it even gives you any of it. The fetus is also about the size of a raspberry at this point so they don’t even need that much at all.
Some women even end up losing 10-15lbs in their first trimester and everything remains still ok. Just be confident that our bodies are accustomed for this and it will do all that it can to keep your baby safe and healthy with whatever it is provided with.
3. I don’t feel the baby moving
Feeling your baby kick and move inside you is probably the best feeling in the world. Once you start feeling them (around 18-22 weeks), it can become a little nerve wracking when you don’t. For those first few weeks you may only feel movement every few days and that’s perfectly normal because the baby is still so small. Around 26 weeks is when you should start consistently feeling your baby multiple times a day. Once my doctor told me that, I should feel my baby 10 times within an hour time.
Sometimes I would feel 10 kicks within the first 5 minutes, but other times it could take much longer. This would frightened me a lot, but often if I would take a break from worrying about it for an hour or two, I would feel the baby again. Feeling the baby move all the time is crucial to knowing your baby is doing absolutely fine, however it just depends how aware you are of the movements and what time of day you choose to take notice of it. A for example, if you are busy at work all day and your baby is moving a lot, you may not notice it, and then at night when you want to feel, the movements may have quieted down. However, your doctor will always say, if you don’t feel movement, call them, but all of the times that happened to me, everything turned out to be fine in my case!
4. Am I eating or drinking anything that might harm the baby?
During pregnancy, there remains a panic issue, whether I would take anything that might harm my baby. Apart from basics like eating healthy and taking prenatal vitamins, pregnant women these days worry about everything. Your doctor will mention clearly the things you need to say no to during your first prenatal visit. Even the risks associated with eating unpasteurized dairy and dying your hair are almost negligible, that doctors advise against.
5. Am I eating too much or gaining too much weight? Will I ever lose it?
Being honest, I must admit, this is probably one of the silliest scary things, that we pregnant woman think of, which does not have any evidence at all. The majority of the weight will be shed in the first two weeks of post-delivery. For the remainder of the weight loss, you may need to work a little harder at it. For instance you may try to increasing your water intake, nursing, exercising, and eating healthier. During my first pregnancy, I gained 45lbs and lost 35lbs of it within about 2.5 months (the first 25 came off within 2-3 weeks). My second pregnancy, I gained 35lbs and lost just about all of it within 1 month.
6. Is my baby is in the right position?
I know, this is obvious that you’ll always be tensed about your baby’s position. But you don’t have to worry too much for this until about 34-36 weeks. You may undergo to an appointment at 26 or 30 weeks where they’ll check and tell you that your baby’s head is up and not in the correct position, but there is still so much time for it to turn! The baby naturally wants to be in the head down position. Gravity and the natural process of pregnancy will take your baby into this position with 97% of full term deliveries. So your chances are very high for your baby to get into the proper position, however there is always that exception. If you get closer to delivery and the baby hasn’t turned, you can contact doctor for further steps, but these are rare cases.
7. Will exercising hurt the baby?
If you haven’t already been exercising that much during pregnancy, it’s best to just stick to yoga or light cardiovascular exercises like walking and light weights (5lbs or under), just you have ensure that you don’t injure yourself. If you were already an exercise enthusiast, keep on going! Just keep in mind that you’re not going to feel the same way you felt before pregnancy. That’s it. There is nothing to worry about your baby during exercise.
8. Why Can’t I sleep?
You may be so uncomfortable due to your growing belly, frequent urge to pee, anxiety and emotions, or even nausea. Even though this will prepare you for the lack of sleep during the first few weeks of having a baby, you want to get in as much rest as you can before then. To prevent these night awakenings, try not to drink anything for 2 hours before bedtime if possible, and that may decrease the urge to go at night, which is one of the most significant reasons of sleeplessness.
9. Will something be wrong with my baby?
Nobody in this world, even doctors can’t relieve regarding your worrying about your going-to-be baby’s health concerns. In my case, Instead of dwelling on the 3% chance of anything bad happening, I had to tell myself that there’s a 97% chance that I will have a healthy baby. Believe me, it really works, and I am now proud mother of 2 healthy babies.
10. How will I know when I’m in Labor?
Well, this kind of tricky, as in for both of my pregnancies, I went into labor very differently. The first time, my water broke completely, but contractions didn’t start on its own. A few weeks before I went into labor, I had very intense contractions for a few hours. I thought that was labor, but it turned out to be a false alarm. However, for my second pregnancy, my contractions for the first couple of hours just felt like period cramps. They did get closer together, but they didn’t feel as intense as I thought it would feel if I was actually in labor.
Well, it didn’t start getting that bad until I was actually admitted to the hospital. So for most of these instances I didn’t know whether or not it was labor. So don’t think too much, automatically you’ll understand it’s time now.
11. Will I be able to reach in hospital in time?
This was one of my biggest worries for my second pregnancy, as my husband was working 2 hours away and having my 1 year old daughter to worry about where she would go. It’s best to have a plan in place for all the scenarios of what could happen. If you go into labor at work, when your husband’s at work, in the middle of the night or even late night, it’s not such a concern if you don’t have another child at home to worry about. Most often, first time births aren’t that quick and you should have plenty of time to get to the hospital. However, You have to make sure you have everything packed in your hospital bag well in advance and locate in your car, doctor’s and ambulance number on phone’s speed dial, and others close to you know if you’re going to need their help. By maintaining these simple steps, you’ll be able to become relaxed a bit.
12. Will the labor and delivery be painful?
If you are too much panicked about labor pain, well, yes in fact, pregnancy labor is obviously painful. But you need to sit back and get relaxed for it. Because, for thousands of years, women have been doing it since the dawn of time, and now there are plenty of things that will provide you relief from the pain. For better knowledge, you can attend childbirth classes and read about pain management techniques as well.
13. Is my stress hurting the baby?
Planning for the new baby along with your regular life can be overwhelming. But stressing over your stress is useless. Most studies say that intermittent stress (the kind your body is used to) has a minimal impact on your body. Though stressing too much might lead to the premature birth of the baby in certain cases.
14. Am I going to be a good mother?
It’s not only mothers but also fathers come across the thought of not being up to their baby, and it is completely normal to get this feeling, even after months of preparation for the arrival. Eventually you will realise, even if exhausting at certain times that you will manage it just fine or maybe better than you think.
15. Am I going to have more complications than other new mothers?
As days progressed towards the desired timeline, you’ll find several general complications like developing high pressure, gas forming, diabetes, swelling of your hands or face, blurry vision, or major headaches, and so on. In most of the cases, the complications remain but up to a certain limit before birth of the baby. Definitely, you should visit to doctor’s chamber for regular checkups, but don’t worry too much, because with the time being, it would go away after a short time within few months of the birth of the little one.
So enjoy the new motherhood and pregnancy period as this is going to be a lifetime opportunity for every mother. Best of Luck!