Tantrums are the actions that children do to express their emotions and feelings. As children are unable to speak at the age of 1 so they use tantrums to told about what they want. These include severe crying and anger.
These are following reasons for tantrum; hunger, thirst, or pain. When children need something, they told it by tantrum. It usually start as young as the age of 1 up to 4. But some children also show tantrum after the age of 4. Children do physical violence by throwing things. These children become stubborn and have less physical control. They are emotionally very high.
For example, when a 1 year old trying to snatch a toy from other but got stopped, he then will started crying out loud and pulled his mother’s hair. Children show this type of physical violence when parents do not fulfill their needs. Because at these age, children really express or speak but can only tell by gestures or movement. It is a very hard period for parents to control them, usually required lots of patience.
Permissive and Persistent tantrum:
Sometimes, children show a tantrum when they suffer from autism disorder and Oppositional defiant disorder ODD. In autism, children are unable to communicate properly so they speak half words like they call Mama as Maa or papa as Paa. Here’s the tricky part, when parents cannot understand what their needs, children show anger in the form of a tantrum. Because they want to tell them about their needs but unable to do so. In ODD, children also show severe tantrums and meltdown. They do not obey their parents and teachers. In these two disorders, extreme tantrum happen quite frequently.
But every child with severe tantrum does not mean that he is suffering from autism disorder and other psychological disorders. It is a form of children speaking, but when it becomes out of control, we must take some measurements to control this behavior.
Causes of a tantrum:
These are the following reasons for showing a tantrum.
- When children want something to fulfill their basic needs like hunger, thirst or uncomfortable.
- When children have pain in their abdomen.
- If children is too attached to his father or mother, they go tantrum or meltdown when they leave for work or away.
This behavior usually lasts till 4 years old, but some children also show this behavior when started to school. This can be overwhelming for parents or teachers especially, when the mallest upset causes major tantrum. Quite frustrating isn’t it. Well, some children are very aggressive, which we normally seen as problematic children.
Tantrum is normal but severe tantrums have adverse effects on the children’s growth. If children have a severe tantrum, it affects the parents’ daily life and also the health of the children then they should go to the child specialist for consultation.
8 Tips to reduce tantrum and meltdown in toddlers
- Identify those factors that trigger to tantrum
- Do not speak loudly with the children
- Do not severely punish the children
- Do not expect more from the children
- Increase physical activities of the children
- Increase confidence level of the children
- Parents should show consistent behavior.
- Last but not least, if you can’t handle it please please consult with the child specialist
Identify those factors that trigger the tantrum:
This technique to reduce meltdown is to point out those things that trigger it. Try to avoid these things. Like if a child wants a toy then give him toys. If the child wants to play with the parents, parents should play with them. Distract his attention from those things to cause a tantrum. In other words, try to minimise the frequency.
Don’t speak loudly with the child:
Secondly, parents should keep calm themself first, before handling the child. It helps them to reduce tantrums. If a child is angry and crying heavily then parents should not speak loudly and yell to the child. It makes the condition worst. Remember, take a deep breath, speak slowly in the way they can understand, this will definatelly help.
Don’t expect more from the child:
Expectations become problematic in our daily routine. Parents thought that after two days of caring for the child, he will not repeat his previous behavior. But when it does not happen and the child acts in the same way again. It becomes irritating for parents. End up you might shout at the child but this is not the solution. As a parent, you should realise that it takes times for correction. Remember, patience required.
Don’t punish the child:
Punishment is always not the solution for any sort of bad behaviour. It usually makes him more aggressive and he will repeat the same act again and again irritates the you. This is the only way they can express their frustration as no one correct or guide them the proper way. This behavior affects their personality as they grow.
Increase physical activities of the child:
A well planed schedule for the child is the trick. You can introduce simple exrcises and activities that can keep them busy and exhausted. Be sure to join them and have fun together, involvement and engagement is very important! Other than physical exercises and activities, get some pictures, colouring books or quite books, enough to keep them busy with some of these quiet activities. These can definatelly help reducing the frequency of tantrum.
Increase the confidence level of the child:
Usually when tantrum happened, children doesn’t know what are they doing nor able to control their emotion. You should guide them and calm them down in an appropriate way. Once they starting to calm or stopped, praise them and let them know that it was wrong, tantrum is a terrible behaviour, and not to do it again. This can boost their confidence level and slowly they will reduce the frequency of tantrum.
Parents should show constant behavior:
Parents must be consistent in your actions. If a child show tantrum, don’t be too aggressive, try to keep calm and teach him politely. Fluctuations in parent’s behavior can cause other problems.
Consult with the child specialist:
If you unable to handle your child’s tantrum, please consult the child specialist.
These techniques can help in reducing the child’s tantrum. Parents should not consider it as a problem, rather consider it as a child’s normal action for expression. Tantrum in children is very normal as this is part of their development.