Let’s face it we all can get a little angry.
Children, like adults, get angry too.
It is perfectly normal for them to get mad, frustrated, and overly tired, which then causes them to “lash out” or get aggressive. The difference is adults, for the most part, can control their emotions. Children, on the other hand, cannot. They are strictly reactive. What they are feeling at the time will be expressed through either, a tantrum, lashing out, or aggressive behaviour.
How do you fix this?
Unfortunately, we as parents are going to come across this behavior sooner or later.
How do we handle it?
How do we prevent it from happening again?
It is Okay for your child to get angry. If they are experiencing something that they don’t like, let them know it is Okay to express their emotions. They need to use words in an acceptable tone to describe how they are feeling, and not to get physical.
It is up to you, once these limits are established that you stick to them. If your child goes beyond the limits that you have set, then they need to be reprimanded immediately, so your child understands that they went too far.
When they go beyond the limits that we have set, and the anger starts to get physical, we send our children to their room for a “cooling off” period. This strategy helps with my two older children, but with my four-year-old, it can be quite daunting. Nothing better than sending him to his room and he is enjoying his toys. We have set up an area where he is far enough away so he can cool off, but close enough to be able to keep an eye on him.
Find Ways to Displace their Anger
At times aggressive behaviour and boredom can be confused. My son can get a little punchy if he hasn’t been outside in a while,(we can’t wait for the winter months). Sometimes they need to burn off some energy. Whenever they get a little steam built up, we tell them to go outside and run around. This not only distracts them from whatever triggered their anger but also tires them out.
Try not to encourage fighting
This is a tough one, especially for us dads. Play-fighting, especially with boys, can be confusing to a child. They will think it is ok to kick and punch. Don’t worry dad’s once your child is old enough to understand the difference you can continue.
Watch Your Temper
Remember you are their biggest influencer. How do you act when angry? Do you follow your advice? Show them how you deal with your anger, in a positive way. Children are like sponges. They will absorb everything that they see and hear around them, good and bad.
Let your child know that it ok to show affection. Show your child that you understand why that they are upset, with a simple hug. It is amazing what a hug can do to a child. You can also use this as an opportunity to show them that it is ok to put their hands for good like by, giving hugs, shaking hands, or even a high five.
Kids are genuine and want to do what is right. It is up to us as parents to teach them what is right.