Many psychologists researched on the topic of parental behavior and come up with different effective results. In this article, we learn what is behavior? What behavior should parents adopt? What Behaviours children learn from their parents and how does it affects their personality structures? All this and more questions will address in this article.
Behaviour is the set of those actions or habits that human beings learn from their surroundings. Some behaviors and habits are genetically transferred from the parents to the children. These innate behavior as well as learnt behavior makes the child’s personality. At the age of one, from sitting to standing, learn from eat to drinking, from babbling to learn the pure language, all these behaviors are all learned from the physical surroundings and are not transferred from the genes.
When a baby is born (in this case let’s talk about a boy), his mind is like a blank slate and is empty. In other words, is a blank white paper. They spend all time with their parents. Firstly, a child has no idea how to eat and drink, what we should eat and what we should not. A two years old child put everything in his mouth because his main center of pleasure is the mouth. If a baby is a girl, she copies his mother’s daily routine work. For example, girls learn how to wear makeup, what dresses girls wear, etc.
But after some months, he starts to make sense of things. When a child starts identifying his parents, at that point the process of socialisation begins. Socialisation is the process in which children observe everything in their surroundings and learn from it. Sometimes they adopt good habits and sometimes bad habits too. They have less ability to differentiate between wrong and right things. This ability can be enhanced by parents by spending time with them. Children start to learn how they behave as a girl or a boy. They observe gender differentiation that both boys and girls behave oppositely. They vary in different ways like girl wears feminine clothes and boys tend to wear more manly clothes, a girl like pink color and boy like blue color, boy play with cars and girl play with dolls. This also develops the concept of self among them. Socialisation occurs through parents, schooling, and friends and family. But parents have a key role in this process.
Parental behavior influence on Children
A lot of things children learn from their parents. Parents’ behavior affects children physically as well as psychologically. Parents teach children about right and wrong, good and evil. Children observe and do things like their parents. So children reflect parental behavior in many ways. When a child comes at the age of 6, he learns some ethics, values, and norms from his parents. Parents teach him about religious beliefs and advised him to follow. For example, In Christianity when a parent goes to Church on every Sunday, the child may also develop the habit. The same way in Muslim cultures, if parents pray five times a day, the child also observes this behavior. Gradually, this behavior becomes a part of the child’s habits.
Most children learn from everyday activities that they see. Affection and caring are two factors that are important for children’s behavior. When the mother shows love, care, and affection to his child, then the child also shows it back to the parent. This means that children learn every little behavior from their parents. Communication skills should be taught to children. Parents should be polite to their parents. I have an example from real life. I met with one family. All are looking very sensible. But after spending some time with them, I observe that his parents do not have a healthy relationship. His mother always speaks loudly with him as well as with children. This behavior has adopted by all children and they also have a habit of yelling upon each other without any purpose. This means that children learned this behavior from their parents.
Parents can also develop positivity among their children. Parents should be an optimistic and real thinker about child-rearing.
Parents act as Role Model
Being a role model of children is the key element to teach them appropriately. Parents are effective role models for children. They should behave in a good way because children learn more by observing them. For example, If you have a baby boy, you would see that he tends to copy his dad. His dad is his hero and he wants to be like him. He imitates his dressing style and speaking style. If a father behaves in a very polite way, then he also behaves in this manner. It becomes a very effective factor for his healthy psychological and physical growth. When children see his parents fighting with one another, it put a bad effect on the children’s minds. Children may adopt these behaviors like stubborn, aggressive and it also affects his future learning.
Parenting style influences a child’s personality
According to a psychologist, parenting style affects the personality of the child. There are following parenting styles that affect the mental growth of the children. Some parents easily fulfill the demands of their parents. Some have organised strict rules and regulations and children should have to follow them. Some parents taught children by caring and show them different alternatives to one thing. The children raised by the first and third parenting styles are very responsible, loving, caring, and they easily understand the difficult situation. They know that what they have to do in a difficult situation and what should not. They handle the situations appropriately because they learned this from his parents.
At the end of the day, your children are the mirror of your parental behavior. They learn everything little thing from you. You as a parent can make their personality attractive. Try to teach them different behaviors and also advise them to implement these in their life.